Not Everyone Who Has Wronged You is a Psychopath
Be Fair, Emotionally Neutral and Be Honest with Yourself
I cannot stress enough that one should not declare a person to be a "psychopath" unless you are completely sure you have fairly and honestly evaluated them with as much emotional neutrality as possible. The label "psychopath" is essentially stating that they are not a proper human being.
Putting this tag on anyone—no matter much they may have wronged you—must not be taken lightly. A psychopath is the human psychological version of a tapeworm. It gets inside a person, family, organisation, workplace, company or government and feeds on the energy of the normal people around "it" depriving them of their sense of self and their emotional/psychological and often financial security. Even so, not every lowlife and manipulator is a psychopath. Most times a creep is just that, a creep.
Not every person who makes our lives miserable, acts like a creep, a serial womaniser, gets elected, runs a major corporation or engages in criminal activities is a psychopath
In the early days of recovery from an encounter it can become only too convenient to claim that anyone who has ever wronged you is or was a psychopath. We must bear in mind that over ninety-five percent of the human race are not psychopaths. A good number of these people have done terrible things in their lives, but they are still not psychopaths because they still retain the desire for redemption.
Psychopaths are no more than 4% of the population. However, the damage and misery they inflict on others is enormous so they can seem to be everywhere. They are not. Most people you will meet will mean you no harm, nor have any desire to exploit, manipulate, hurt, damage or use you. Keep this in mind.
However, people who have been genuinely affected by a psychopath who passed through their lives know precisely what they were dealing with after a period inner reflection/revelation/discoveries in the aftermath and they have no doubts they were dealing with a psychopath all the time—but never came fully to terms with it until it was too late. These sincere victims need support and understanding and not to be judged or told to "get over it!" or worse still "you bought this all on yourself..."
Life is really good once we transcend the Psychopathic Control Grid. It is almost like being reborn a wiser, mature and a more complete person. What happens to the psychopath who damaged you is no concern of yours. They are history and never coming back.
In the early days of recovery from an encounter it can become only too convenient to claim that anyone who has ever wronged you is or was a psychopath. We must bear in mind that over ninety-five percent of the human race are not psychopaths. A good number of these people have done terrible things in their lives, but they are still not psychopaths because they still retain the desire for redemption.
Psychopaths are no more than 4% of the population. However, the damage and misery they inflict on others is enormous so they can seem to be everywhere. They are not. Most people you will meet will mean you no harm, nor have any desire to exploit, manipulate, hurt, damage or use you. Keep this in mind.
However, people who have been genuinely affected by a psychopath who passed through their lives know precisely what they were dealing with after a period inner reflection/revelation/discoveries in the aftermath and they have no doubts they were dealing with a psychopath all the time—but never came fully to terms with it until it was too late. These sincere victims need support and understanding and not to be judged or told to "get over it!" or worse still "you bought this all on yourself..."
Life is really good once we transcend the Psychopathic Control Grid. It is almost like being reborn a wiser, mature and a more complete person. What happens to the psychopath who damaged you is no concern of yours. They are history and never coming back.
NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN
No contact also applies to toxic or negative people whom you can't be comfortable around, including psychopaths. Being around these people has serious health implications.
Our time on this planet is short. Your job is to look after yourself and find the countless millions of wonderful people out there to share your life with. They are waiting for you. So stay positive, friendly and wise.
The painting at the top of this post was inspired by a neighbour of mine who was recovering from cancer and everyday I watched her walk a slightly longer distance up the road until one day she was well enough to reach the crossroads at the end of the village. I found her so inspiring and learned so much from this ordinary woman of what the human spirit is capable of overcoming.
Our time on this planet is short. Your job is to look after yourself and find the countless millions of wonderful people out there to share your life with. They are waiting for you. So stay positive, friendly and wise.
The painting at the top of this post was inspired by a neighbour of mine who was recovering from cancer and everyday I watched her walk a slightly longer distance up the road until one day she was well enough to reach the crossroads at the end of the village. I found her so inspiring and learned so much from this ordinary woman of what the human spirit is capable of overcoming.
